Comments on: Is this a betrayal of trust? http://aj2008.squidtop.com/2009/09/11/is-this-a-betrayal-of-trust/ AJs Squidooings and other ponderings Tue, 02 Mar 2010 20:54:39 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.2 hourly 1 By: joanhall http://aj2008.squidtop.com/2009/09/11/is-this-a-betrayal-of-trust/comment-page-1/#comment-4133 joanhall Sun, 04 Oct 2009 15:39:02 +0000 http://aj2008.squidtop.com/?p=701#comment-4133 Definitely not cool. I wouldn't remain on the person's mailing list. Definitely not cool. I wouldn’t remain on the person’s mailing list.

]]> By: lakeerieartists http://aj2008.squidtop.com/2009/09/11/is-this-a-betrayal-of-trust/comment-page-1/#comment-4128 lakeerieartists Thu, 17 Sep 2009 22:28:16 +0000 http://aj2008.squidtop.com/?p=701#comment-4128 I think that there is a certain level of honesty in all business relationships. It is okay for a business person to promote their business, after all, that is why they are in business. However, to lie outright to get you somewhere is not conducive to getting you to buy their product; it is actually counterproductive and yes, a betrayal. Personally, in most cases, I would cut that person off entirely. But I am sort of mean about those kind of things. In response to spirituality's post, I have also cut off people I know on Twitter if I do not want to hear their tweets. I like to read tweets that are either personally interesting for me, or related to my business, and professionally interesting for me. Sometimes I will follow someone for a while, then stop, because the amount of tweets does not equal my interest level. It doesn't mean that I won't communicate with them via email, phone, or some other method, though. You know, AJ, that I would love to give you a referral fee on a product that you endorse, because I trust you. However, that trust has been built over time, and I know that even though you and I do not agree on everything, you are a passionate, compassionate, and trustworthy person who I trust. Therefore, if you led me to a site that you recommended, it would be for a reason that I could trust. But if I don't trust you, why would I continue to waste my time following you in any manner? :) I think that there is a certain level of honesty in all business relationships. It is okay for a business person to promote their business, after all, that is why they are in business. However, to lie outright to get you somewhere is not conducive to getting you to buy their product; it is actually counterproductive and yes, a betrayal.

Personally, in most cases, I would cut that person off entirely. But I am sort of mean about those kind of things.

In response to spirituality’s post, I have also cut off people I know on Twitter if I do not want to hear their tweets. I like to read tweets that are either personally interesting for me, or related to my business, and professionally interesting for me. Sometimes I will follow someone for a while, then stop, because the amount of tweets does not equal my interest level. It doesn’t mean that I won’t communicate with them via email, phone, or some other method, though.

You know, AJ, that I would love to give you a referral fee on a product that you endorse, because I trust you. However, that trust has been built over time, and I know that even though you and I do not agree on everything, you are a passionate, compassionate, and trustworthy person who I trust. Therefore, if you led me to a site that you recommended, it would be for a reason that I could trust. But if I don’t trust you, why would I continue to waste my time following you in any manner? :)

]]> By: mulberry http://aj2008.squidtop.com/2009/09/11/is-this-a-betrayal-of-trust/comment-page-1/#comment-4127 mulberry Wed, 16 Sep 2009 18:36:48 +0000 http://aj2008.squidtop.com/?p=701#comment-4127 Yes it's a betrayal of trust. It takes innumerable trustworthy acts to establish trust and only one betrayal to lose it. Yes it’s a betrayal of trust. It takes innumerable trustworthy acts to establish trust and only one betrayal to lose it.

]]> By: phiz http://aj2008.squidtop.com/2009/09/11/is-this-a-betrayal-of-trust/comment-page-1/#comment-4126 phiz Tue, 15 Sep 2009 09:52:09 +0000 http://aj2008.squidtop.com/?p=701#comment-4126 It's stupidity - and since I'm not on Squidoo here I can say things like that. Most high value links on the Internet come about by personal interaction and building trust. None of us gets on with everybody - that's inevitable - but it's critical not to abuse the key relationships you build up. Katinka has it right. Kate It’s stupidity – and since I’m not on Squidoo here I can say things like that. Most high value links on the Internet come about by personal interaction and building trust. None of us gets on with everybody – that’s inevitable – but it’s critical not to abuse the key relationships you build up. Katinka has it right.

Kate

]]> By: aj2008 http://aj2008.squidtop.com/2009/09/11/is-this-a-betrayal-of-trust/comment-page-1/#comment-4125 aj2008 Fri, 11 Sep 2009 23:07:36 +0000 http://aj2008.squidtop.com/?p=701#comment-4125 Just to clarify - the person who sent me that link was not a personal contact - but someone who is building a presence (and an income) on the internet. It is someone whose mailing list I signed up to because I recognise that they have useful info to share. However, Katinka you are right when you say that "the power of the web is personal recommendation, not automatic referral". By doing what this person did, they crossed the boundary. They compromised the reputation they had established for being a "trusted teacher" and, in my view, wrecked their reputation for giving trustworthy personal recommendation in pursuit of earning a few cents for a referral. As far as I am concerned this means that this person has crossed the threshold to the "dark side" of Internet marketing. As for Twitter, I will be posting about my views on Twitter and Twitiquette on <a href="http://squidlog.com/topics/featured/thinking-about-squidoo-etiquette-and-manners-on-the-internet-or-is-that-netiquette">SquidLog</a>, very soon. Just to clarify – the person who sent me that link was not a personal contact – but someone who is building a presence (and an income) on the internet. It is someone whose mailing list I signed up to because I recognise that they have useful info to share.

However, Katinka you are right when you say that “the power of the web is personal recommendation, not automatic referral”.

By doing what this person did, they crossed the boundary. They compromised the reputation they had established for being a “trusted teacher” and, in my view, wrecked their reputation for giving trustworthy personal recommendation in pursuit of earning a few cents for a referral.

As far as I am concerned this means that this person has crossed the threshold to the “dark side” of Internet marketing.

As for Twitter, I will be posting about my views on Twitter and Twitiquette on SquidLog, very soon.

]]> By: spirituality http://aj2008.squidtop.com/2009/09/11/is-this-a-betrayal-of-trust/comment-page-1/#comment-4124 spirituality Fri, 11 Sep 2009 19:19:49 +0000 http://aj2008.squidtop.com/?p=701#comment-4124 I would feel I trusted that webmaster a lot less than before. We all have to balance the personal with the professional online and that person clearly crossed a line there. That comes at a cost: online relationships get eroded if one does that sort of thing. The power of the web is personal recommendation, not automatic referral. If we're not up front with people online about what we're sending them, we're throwing away the relationship. An online 'friend' of mine recently told me she'd blocked someone she knew in real life on twitter. I was like 'WHAT'? in my opinion blocking people on twitter is a tool to avoid spam, not a way to manage what you get from people. If you really know someone, you'll tell them certain communications aren't welcome, instead of using a mechanical way to get rid of the unwanted communication. Similarly: that lensmaster should have blogged about the product he/she was recommending and then posted an ordinary link to the product page they wanted people to see. That way you'd have known what they were on about. I would feel I trusted that webmaster a lot less than before. We all have to balance the personal with the professional online and that person clearly crossed a line there.

That comes at a cost: online relationships get eroded if one does that sort of thing.

The power of the web is personal recommendation, not automatic referral. If we’re not up front with people online about what we’re sending them, we’re throwing away the relationship.

An online ‘friend’ of mine recently told me she’d blocked someone she knew in real life on twitter. I was like ‘WHAT’? in my opinion blocking people on twitter is a tool to avoid spam, not a way to manage what you get from people. If you really know someone, you’ll tell them certain communications aren’t welcome, instead of using a mechanical way to get rid of the unwanted communication.

Similarly: that lensmaster should have blogged about the product he/she was recommending and then posted an ordinary link to the product page they wanted people to see. That way you’d have known what they were on about.

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